Reward for the Child, is it necessary?

Children will be delighted given a gift, especially if they have done a commendable thing. However, what if the kids just want to do everything because there are rewards?

"I thank you for the toy, I was thrilled. Tomorrow I'm going to be a toy even more if I return the toy to its place. But if Mom does not give what I wanted, I'd better not have clean my toys."

It has become a habit for six-year-old child is doing something because there is a reward from his parents. Once because the mom did not want to make the child has a bad habit because it would only do something about the rewards, the child even rage, angry, and disappointed all day.

Finally his mother relented and was still giving the child something for good behavior he has done, in accordance with what he wanted. Psychologists say, that rewards or awards can be given when the child has positive behavior or achieve something that is expected.

The benefits of giving rewards to children are to teach them what a good boy and bad boy, to encourage children to repeat the good behavior, make children feel valued and rewarded. Awards can also foster self-confidence of children and the child's internal motivation, such as feeling proud of yourself and feel satisfied with the success of yourself.

However, there are several things that must be considered in the granting of rewards for children, for example, do not be so excessive as to give rewards. It is because if too much given then rewards will lose its meaning, among other rewards could be turned into a kind of wage. Therefore, in the provision of rewards, also grow a child's internal motivation so that over time dependence on rewards (external motivation) will be reduced.

For example, in addition to praise from parents, parents also can say 'well, would you also proud of yourself because you can already trying hard to get this result. giving rewards for not too much, and the rewards do not have to be good. What is important for children, instead of attention from parents.

Start from small things, such as a pat on the shoulder, smile happily from their parents, thumbs up, applause, hugs and soft kisses. Rewards should not be given too often to children, so that it can be said to provide rewards to make children a challenge.

Make it a challenge to get the rewards to be less meaningful, not too easy to get, for example, after three days of sleeping alone, the child will get her favorite sticker.

Some Psychologist also suggested to make the token system, where children have to collect a certain number of points, can be exchanged with new rewards, such as the child will get one point each time to help the mother in the kitchen. Having collected 20 points, he can trade them in time to watch TV

Also worth noting is to avoid giving rewards in the form of cash rewards. By giving money, then will make a child become misguided and mean wages.

"Giving rewards to your child can use a comparable system for each child, but can be distinguished depending rewardnya desire of each child.